You deserve to be loved without having to hide the parts of yourself that you think are unlovable

Olya Barnett
2 min readJan 29

When people feel unlovable, they often withdraw and hide the parts of themselves they feel ashamed of. But it’s important to remember that no matter what we feel, we all deserve to be loved and accepted for who we are.

Living in fear that our flaws might push people away is so exhausting. We desperately want to feel loved and accepted, yet we keep ourselves closed off — avoiding meaningful relationships and hiding our true selves.

But no one should have to live in fear of being judged or rejected for who you are. You have a right to be seen, accepted, and valued — no matter what you look like, who you love, or the quirks that make up your unique personality.

When it comes to relationships, it’s essential to be open and honest. It’s important to share the parts of yourself you’ve been hiding away and let the other person in. If they love you they’ll do the same, and together you can create something meaningful.

Don’t be afraid to stand your ground and express how you feel. No matter how difficult the conversation may be, it’s an important step towards allowing someone to really connect with you.

And while you’re at it, don’t forget to be kind to yourself too. Remember, all of the things that make you unique are lovable, even if you don’t think so. You shouldn’t have to hide yourself or pretend to be someone else in order to be liked.

Everyone deserves to be loved for being their true selves. So take a deep breath, take a step back, and remind yourself that it’s okay to let people in. Be vulnerable, be honest, and give yourself the love you deserve.

Olya Barnett

A Soul having a human experience while learning how to get out of her own way and empowering those along the way with one writing or creative piece at a time!