Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers

Olya Barnett
2 min readFeb 4, 2019
Photo by Drop the Label Movement on Unsplash

Have you ever heard that quote, everyone is looking for love in the wrong places? That means that everyone is searching for outside circumstances to give them what they want when instead, it begins with yourself. Everything worthy (and worth-it) begins from the inside out.

Whatever it is that you are searching for, start looking for it within yourself. If you can’t find it, then begin to give yourself those things. Are you looking for love? Learn to love and accept who you are, and you won’t be desperately seeking it from other people. Are you looking for abundance? Learn to create it yourself instead of hoping you’ll win the lottery one day.

Ask yourself honestly, what am I looking for? What do I want my life to be like? Put your ego aside when you’re answering these questions. Let your soul answer these questions because then at least it’s coming from your heart.

It’s human nature to crave things such as fulfillment, freedom, joy, love, etc. But it begins with you by first recognizing what you want, then putting the actions toward creating those things for yourself. If you only knew deep down like I do, that you can truly create anything you want in your life when you begin to take accountability for yourself and your actions toward what you’re looking for.

It doesn’t have to be hard. It doesn’t have to be painful. It can be easy. It can be fun. It can and will be rewarding. Change your mindset around your beliefs, and what you are making them mean and your response to them will change as well.

Fill your life up with the things you want and love. And don’t leave that job in anyone else’s hands because that’s like giving away your most treasured item and hoping they will do the right thing, and every time. You’re not only risking yourself up for disappointment but setting up yourself too.

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Olya Barnett a Personal-Growth Coach, she helps empower people to live their best lives by becoming self-aware, altering their mindset for success, and helping people to show up as their highest and authentic selves WHILE learning how to think positively. She is also the creator and writer of, a website that promotes positive thinking and personal growth to become your best self! Join our email list for the best goodies straight to your inbox!

Olya Barnett

A Soul having a human experience while learning how to get out of her own way and empowering those along the way with one writing or creative piece at a time!